LIFE LESSONS WITH KAYCEE

  Do you try to live the way other people expect? In what areas of your life have you lived true to yourself? Sometimes we get used to living for people that we forget what we wanted. I never consciously made the decision to live life on my terms but recently, I looked back and realized I have always lived that way. I got married to the love of my life, I tried my dream businesses and dream jobs, I tried skills and hobbies I found interesting. I have never allowed events or people to stop me. But I also realized something else, ‘I have always stopped myself.’ Do you know you can stop yourself without even knowing it? For instance, the career you have right now, how did you end up in it? People settle in a career for various reasons: ·         It could be what they are used to: the problem with this is that what you are used to is not the only available option. There is more and there is no way to find out whether it’s better because you will never try. ·         It could be w

   I developed interest in Information Technology and immediately I graduated from the university, I started acquiring the necessary knowledge. I went to a computer school. This really paid me because, when I went for National Youth Service, I got a place to served based on the IT skill I have, not based on the course I studied in school. Afterwards I got a job as an IT Officer, but at a time I became restless and started feeling it's better to go back to my course of study. I felt I will have a better career path if I was to go back. There is this wonderful school in front of my office, I will look out from my office window and imagine how fulfilling it will be to be in that environment. That was how I decided to switch back to my 'would-have-been-career.' I gave it three years of my life. I learned a lot of lessons but, I have finally switched back to the IT field I came out from. The experience I got in those three years are so relevant in my life that I don't wish t

Have you ever been surprised by someone's sudden outburst of anger? Do you usually wonder where you have gone wrong? Do you respond with the same negative energy or do you gently nurse your hurt? If you understand the real reason behind people's outburst, you will not feel hurt or go on wondering what you have done to deserve such treatment. Most people react based on a feeling of disappointment that may or may not be connected to the situation at hand.  A driver who has become disappointed because he hasn't met his target for the day may lash out at another driver who tries to overtake him. Naturally, it will look as if his outburst is justified because the other driver angered him but, the anger has always been somewhere inside of him, waiting for a way to burst out. Parents shout at their children over issues we will all agree is unnecessary, because they are disappointed that the child is not living up to their expectations.  When you are angry, you may not be able to r

These days, a lot of young people are afraid to commit to a relationship. They say things like, “how can I be with one person all my life? Isn't it going to be boring? What happens when we stop loving each other or just get tired of each other? What happens when I am not having fun anymore and desire to try something new?" These kind of questions have stopped a lot of people from committing to a relationship. Even when some people eventually get married, the mindset they have developed as a result of insecurity, doubt and indiscipline, doesn't allow them to stay committed. Having been in a committed relationship for some years now, I see how it is the best in so many aspects: Confidant: there is this sense of security that makes you unafraid to tell or show it all to another person. In a committed relationship, you have known each other for so long that it doesn't feel the other person is a different person. You have gotten to the point where you have nothing to hide a

  In my third year in college, going for industrial training for six months was part of the requirements. You must choose a place to put into practice some of the things you have learned in school, though in reality, you are going to learn from scratch because you have not been thought anything worth applying.  My class mates already had plans before we entered third year. Most of them got places where they will be paid during the short internship. My best friend even got two places but it was in another state so there was no option of going with her. After much search in my most preferred places, I decided to settle for the only available option which was the option of Medical Laboratory. I am not sure I really tried hard to get the other options before I settled for the available option. When I settled for the option of interning in a medical laboratory, I was left with so many options because medical laboratories are everywhere. So as usual, instead of choosing the one I can trek to